Two year-old’s contact stopped with “homophobic” dad (by Gagged Dad)

Guest post by “Gagged Dad”, whose real name must be kept secret, for legal reasons

SadGagged

When the police at last cleared me of the false allegation that I had hit my two year-old son, I expected to be allowed to see him again straight away.  I had been a part of his life since birth. I had been seeing him three times a week until almost two months ago, when all contact was abruptly stopped.  I miss him, and he must be missing me.

The social worker said that the alleged assault, for which I had documentary proof of an alibi that would have proved my innocence if the police prosecuted me, wasn’t an “insurmountable” problem.  But she had developed other “concerns”, about (if I remember the phrase correctly) my “parenting style”, because of my “beliefs”.  (She had presumably found out that I used to take my son to church every Sunday. He loved it.)

I asked her to explain. What beliefs?

She responded by asking me a weird question.  What if, when my my son was 14, he told me that he was “gay” and that he had a “boyfriend” and I was “violently opposed” to this?  She wanted to know what I would do, in this hypothetical situation.  How would I react to this announcement?   Presumably she anticipated that I would react “violently”, judging by the way she had worded her hypothetical question.  I reminded her that my son was only two.

She then asked me how I would react if one of my grown-up daughters one day told me that she had had an abortion.

I later learnt that social services had decided not to “promote contact.”  I missed his third birthday.  I don’t know whether I will ever see my little boy again.  If he can no longer have contact with me, who will take him to visit his three sisters and brother, or his aunts and uncles, or his nephews and nieces who are closer to his own age?  Who will take him to church?

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36 responses to “Two year-old’s contact stopped with “homophobic” dad (by Gagged Dad)

  1. Thank you, Gagged Dad. What you say should be very concerning.

    Because of the secret family court system, you must never talk about your case to anybody, in such a way that you, your son, the social worker, or any other person could be identified, or you might be sent to prison. I don’t suppose that would make your life any worse than it is, mind you.

    Some of us have been trying to challenge the injustice of the secret courts for years.

  2. Susan

    This is absolutely appalling. Complain to the Social Services, complain to you MP and get advice from a single-parents network. You may have to pay a solicitor to handle this one. Social workers are a very nasty breed with a lot of crap ideas. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS HOMOPHOBIA.

    • JM

      little point in complaining to the perps…that only tends to provoke further abuse. another appalling case in long line of appalling cases…..

  3. Susan

    Ten Worst Myths

    Let’s all save ourselves time. When arguing, just refer to these
    common homosexual myths by their numbers…we’ve all heard them often
    enough!
    1. “Gays are 5-10% of the population.” Rubbish, They are less than 2%
    according to the UK Census and similar surveys carried out objectively
    in other countries.
    2. The Gay Gene. It is fashionable in the West to claim that some
    people are “born gay”. Wrong. This can and has been scientifically
    refuted.
    3. “Being gay is just like being black”. Wrong. The two things have
    nothing in common. Being homosexual is a behaviour, being black is
    not. They are different sorts of category. Homosexuals have never been
    oppressed or enslaved like black people. There has never been any
    special tax on them. They have never (unlike women and poor people)
    been excluded from education, the professions or voting. They have
    never been barred from beaches, bars, restaurants, schools or buses
    just for being homosexual. They have never been forced to live in
    ghettoes. They are usually to be found in the most privileged classes
    of society. The penalties for sodomy always applied to heterosexuals
    as well.
    4. “The Nazis exterminated 100,000 homosexuals along with the Jews.”
    Rubbish. They exterminated 6 million Jews, some of whom were
    homosexual – that is all. 2% of 6 million is 120,000 yet there are no
    documents to prove more than 500 were ever arrested or locked up. Most
    of those were not killed. They came out alive at the end of the war.
    5. “Homosexuals commit suicide because they are so bullied and
    victimized all over the world”. Wrong. Most gay-bullying is done by
    gays to other people.
    6. “There is no connection between homosexuality and paedophilia”. Oh
    no? Go and read Alfred Kinsey. And the records of the Boy Scouts. Even
    Jimmy Savile was bisexual – he molested boys.
    7. “AIDS is not a gay problem”. Oh yes it is. See “The Myth of
    heterosexual AIDS” The Myth of Heterosexual AIDS: How a Tragedy Has
    Been Distorted by the Media and Partisan Politics, [book] by Michael
    Fumento, pub. Regnery September 1993. ISBN-10: 0895267292 ISBN-13:
    978-0895267290. The health risks of the homosexual lifestyle are very
    high and very serious. They cannot easily be dealt with by antibiotics
    or just using a condom. Male homosexuals are 28 times more likely to
    get AIDS than normal heterosexuals, and there is no cure. Homosexuals
    have a significantly shorter life expectancy than heterosexuals.
    8. “The Christian Churches used to perform same-sex unions in the
    middle ages”. This is a complete fallacy. It derives from a book by
    John Boswell which is crap. Most “gay” history is a pack of lies.
    9. “Homosexuals are more talented than average and that many great
    geniuses have been homosexual.” Wrong. There is no difference between
    the intelligence of homosexuals and other people.
    10. Being a “homophobe” is a sure sign of being a repressed
    homosexual. Rubbish. Actually there is no such thing as “homophobia”.
    It is fraudulent pseudo-scientific term.

    • chris

      Love your Truths, Susan.

    • fgzstar

      It’s people like you that make life for homosexuals much more difficult. We don’t want to change you, or corrupt your children. We just want to be treated the same as anybody else, and to be able to love whoever makes us happy. I don’t hate you, I just feel sorry for you, because you are so afraid of a group of people who have done nothing to harm you, just because a book tells you they are wrong, and you are too ignorant to challenge it.

      • How is Susan making life difficult for anybody? How is she escaping the efforts to change her, that (say) Gagged Dad has experienced, or her children the attempts to corrupt them that other’s children report? Do you think that parents treat all strangers the same? How do you know that people who practise homosexuality have done nothing to harm Susan, or her opinion is taken from a book, or that she is “ignorant”, or that she hasn’t “challenged” any of the sources of her ideas that aren’t simply her own opinion, arrived at independently, all on her own?

      • Susan

        Wrong – the ignorance is on your side. To deny that there is an organised LGBT movement with an agenda, a manifesto, registered groups and branches, international networks, big conferences, funding in universities, branches in trade unions, committees in professional bodies, salaried leaders, state subsidies … you really are ignorant, Particularly as the tax-payer is burdened with paying for it.
        Haven’t done any harm? You clearly haven’t read the article above.

      • David Skinner

        fgzstar, though you personally might not wish to change society,or corrupt children and just be treated the same as anybody else, and be able to love whoever makes you happy, this not intention of the radicalising homosexualists. Like the Muslims who do not want to assimilate into British society, but instead want to bring the UK under Shariah law, so to in mirror image fashion, the gaystapo want to smash down the barriers protecting marriage, family and children and instead force us to become as liberated and degenerate as they are . They do not want equality. What they want is sameness- that we should become the same as them. In order to do this they are already, using intimidation, oppression and violence in order to get what they want, when they want it.
        Instead of Sharia , the gaystapo are bringing in Pink Law. I could not be bothered to give you or any gay activists who comes on this blogg, chapter and verse evidence, because your mind is darkened. You are blind and deaf to the truth. Only God’s mercy and grace can unlock the prison of homosexuality and set you free and if the Son, Jesus Christ should set you free, you would free indeed. Repent and be saved from the wrath to come.

    • 1. 2%, 5% – WHO CARES? There ARE gays, full stop. Jesus asked the woman taken in adultery “who has condemned you?” She replied “no one” “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” In the context of a group of corruptly sanctimonious ‘virtuous’ people being unable to meet his challenge about “without sin”. What follows is always overlooked, a discussion about marriage as then accepted, and then about those whom it would not cover – he gave examples. In the ‘christian’ desire to impose (straight) marriage on all as a standard, the words of the Man are ignored. And BTW, he didn’t specify adultery as the particular sin she was not to repeat, any his injunction/advice applied to the sanctimonious as much as to her.
      2. It hasn’t been refuted. The jury remains out.
      3. They have been persecuted, imprisoned, their behaviour criminalised (not just anal intercourse but oral sex and mutual masturbation which were not offences if one was not gay). Lesbians were not criminalised. The system encouraged those who committed crimes against gays – robbery, violent assault, blackmail. You make the black-gay comparison to divert attention from the real issue, the denial of civil rights to gays and their criminalisation which the sanctimonious wanted continued until the tide of public opinion changed. The idea that “it’s the rich etc”, that really shows your lack of objectivity and your real purpose, demonisation. You are not ‘sad’, you are a threat to the liberty of others.
      4.Holocaust denial re gays, well you are in strange company …. or given the bile you have spouted, maybe not. At least you seem to agree the Jews were being exterminated. Ah ‘gay jews’, of course. Er, how did the nazis find that out????
      5. Total bunk. Oh, what proportion of homeless kids in the US are judged to be, er- gay? 40%. Usually turfed out by sanctimonious parents. How do you suppose a kid manages to ‘come out’ in such a situation, hoping there’d be acceptance but losing home and family? Next you’ll tell us there’s a ‘cure’
      6. Kinsey – oh boy, once reviled by people of your view, now espoused? Wooaa. A man now questioned as to his methods, and his encouragement of behaviours. I went once to a fringe meeting at a conference where feminist campaigners told all us men we had to admit our paedophilic tendencies… Now, let’s see, are boys or girls most reported as being victims, and who are the perpetrators in the main? Gays? Or Straights? You do grave injustice to victims as well as law-abiding gays with such mischievous garbage. The issue is PAEDOPHILIA. Or aren’t girls assaulted? BTW, any ‘news’ on female adult-on-female child assault? No? Hmmmm.
      7. How about Africa? Gay AIDS transmission? The greatest prevalence of AIDS globally? Women as much as men. The issue is not gay/straight, it’s multiple sex partners and lack of protection. In the US, that’s more of an issue for gay males, and also drug users, please don’t forget them. In Africa, where gay behaviour is often outlawed and denied to happen even, and where female sex workers play a role as men forced to migrate away from families for work, both give and get the virus which then transmit via their wives etc. Get real, the issue has to be encouraging stable communities where couples can live in stable unions, straight or gay. Are gays naturally more promiscuous than straights? I suggest you could only judge that if you had similarly disposed populations where stable union was easier to achieve. I’d suspect that decades of criminalisation and non-acceptance created a promiscuous lifestyle amongst at least some gays, and I suspect it may take quite some time for that sub-culture to change/disappear even.
      8. Who cares? There are gay-myth campaigners, a mirror-image of your approach.
      9. Most gays don’t believe such guff, but they will look to icons of their own, talented people who displayed gay behaviour. We’re encouraged to do that as role models re girls (successful women) re boys (e.g. the rich and famous, or the virtuous etc etc etc), or within ethnic communities (great Scots people we have known, famous people of Bognor Regis etc) Many claims are made for all sorts of groups and identities, so why not gays too? Aw, go on, let them. That nice Mr Wilde, oh Sonnet 18 to a youth not a maiden. Oooh, that Theban Band. Or, the modern age, Alan Turing. Wot, no statue? This isn’t a litany about gays being better etc, it’s to acknowledge individual gays for what they achieved not whose cocks they sucked etc No persecution? Read what happened to Turing, a brilliant mind, hugely influential. Chemically castrated by the State which had been shamelessly prepared to use his talent when convenient but which then turned on him. Have you no shame for what you appear to condone? Oh, back to point 5 … Turning took cyanide …. Ah well, one less of them. Er, verdict was ‘suicide’.
      10. Alas, whilst this may be a myth, there is some recent work which might re-open that debate. ‘Phobia’? It’s not used as a scientific term, i have never seen it engaged as such. But it does describe hate crime against gays which does happen.

      • Susan

        Wrong on every count.
        1) Of course it matters that they exaggerate their numbers, It’s a lie and it’s designed to get more power and money. Truth matters.
        2) The notion of being “born gay” has been conclusively refuted by many independent pieces of research conducted into identical twins, There is no jury and the matter is settled.
        3) You imagine that homosexuals have been persecuted because you have been fed a lot of distorted or fake history. You just don’t know the facts. You are confused in accusing me of making a black-“gay” comparison when that is just what I have disallowed. To claim I am a danger is sheer piffle and shows that you are getting hot under the collar!!!
        4) I am not denying any Holocaust, you are just ignorant about what actually went on. Again LGBTs have disseminated falsehoods.
        5) Your statistics are complete garbage. It is a myth that sanctimonious parents throw out “gay” teenagers. The truth is that homosexuals have far higher than average rates of bullying and murdering each other. And they kill heterosexuals – Flanagan being the latest example.
        6) Re Homosexuality and paedophilia there is far too much evidence to list here. Suffice it to say that your denials are disingenuous,. All the leaders and founders of t he LGBT movement have always been paedophiles. Most of them still are. Brinkin, Bean, Tatchell following in the footsteps of Harry Hay and David Thorstad. More than half of all CSA victims world-wide are boys molested by homosexuals.
        7) To deny that AIDS is a “gay” problem is, again, simply disingenuous. Read the latest announcements from the public health officer.
        8) You say Who cares? If you don’t care why not shut up? This is one more example of the LGBT movement relying on falsehood. Truth matters.
        9) That nice Mr Wilde was a paedophile, He molested boys. As for Alan Turing, you have evidently taken Hollywood fantasy for fact. He was just one of hundreds of people who worked at Bletchley, no great genius, and what happened to him was entirely his fault. He told lies to the police, Idiot, And there are far too many statues of him everywhere.
        10) There is no such thing as homophobia, Homosexuals fake “hate-crimes” endlessly all over the world and most shamefully, they try to get heterosexuals convicted of these fake crimes. Here is just one recent example., but there are hundreds more. http://www.advocate.com/crime/2015/08/07/women-faked-hate-crime-jury-rules
        The Kray twins were homosexual. but I suppose you think they were victims too?

  4. On your individual level, you must go beyond and above the Social Workers. Judges tend to sanction what they are doing. So your MP is your best bet, especially if you include John Hemming MP who is VERY aware of the corruption of the family courts.

    In general, solicitors are corrupt, too, and don’t achieve what you need. Become stronger and stronger to stand your ground as a ‘Litigant in Person’. Threaten with taking them to court, possibly. Show them how many people know of their wrong doing and that secrecy as a cloak for criminality will soon be revealed! http://bit.ly/16l1Tgz

    Pester them. Show them this European Assembly recommendation which is the result of Slovak parents fighting for their 2 boys: http://assembly.coe.int/ASP/XRef/X2H-DW-XSL.asp?fileid=19220&lang=EN

    These ‘legal reasons’ must be stopped! First the state punishes without crime, then it gags!?… Please help gather signatures for the petitions that will support an EU petition. MEPs are already being ‘groomed’. See http://bit.ly/1373zV4 and http://bit.ly/16l1Tgz for more ‘shock therapy’.

    Sighing, but “Discouragement is not an option”!!!

  5. Reblogged this on Musings of a Penpusher and commented:
    Another case of justice denied?

  6. I have reblogged this. It is worth trying to ensure as many people read about what is going on if we are ever to have justice one day. So many remain ignorant of the facts.

  7. it sounds gross and anything but justice!

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  9. Appalling story, sadly not unique and with all the secrecy how many people are affected? The money spent on Leveson would have been better spent on a rigouress enquiry into social workers – like why do the appear to be acting on a political agenda and who is responsible for setting it. Gagged Dad along with the practical advice you have been given, don’t forget prayer as a resource.

  10. The son will be better off not wasting his time in church

    I notice by the way that this father does not indicate what answers he gives to the social workers’ perfectly valid questions. If the boy did turn out to be gay I suspect that “gagged dad” would probably try to “pray it away” or force the child into one of the discredited forms of counselling that tries to turn gay people straight. Would gagged dad like to comment on how he would have answered?

    • gaggeddad

      Why are those questions “perfectly valid”? My son was only two!

      I have already said that I answered the first question by reminding the social worker that my son was only two. What I would do, in a hypothetical situation, when he was fourteen, isn’t something I’d even thought about. He’s just a normal toddler, who needs his dad.

      I answered the other question, about how I’d feel if one of my grandchildren got killed in an abortion, by saying that I’d be “devastated”. I would be devastated if anybody killed any of my grandchildren, at any age. Why is that a reason for my son not to know his dad?

      I don’t think your opinion that my son would be better off not coming to church is relevant. My post isn’t about church. Coming to church with me was just something he loved to do when he was with me three days every week.

      I don’t know much about counselling and don’t trust it I would certainly never “force” any teenager of mine into counselling. I wasn’t asked about that though. He was only just learning to talk.

      I think you’re being silly.

      • Susan

        I am with you all the way,. Gagged Dad, and I hope that you will find some way to overcome this terrible injustice, It is unfair to you AND to your son,

    • Truth Teller.

      If I had a family member that decided to have gay sex at the age of 14 I might tell them that it is illegal to have sex at the age of 14 and if you decide to break the law then maybe try and look more into why it is that you want to have gay sex? I may also say to the family member that thought they were “gay” -that a girl may find a girl attractive because many girls are pretty, but thinking that a girl is pretty does not mean your are a freak, nor does it mean that you are gay.

      It may be that you appreciate beauty, that you are honest with yourself and others to tell them this, -but does appreciating other humans beauty mean you should be boxed into a category and labeled “gay?”

      Should you necessarily then follow the trends and expectations that may be associated and influence by being tagged with a “gay” label? Does recognizing that someone of the same sex is pretty mean you should then start having gay sex? Does being able to acknowledging beauty mean you have something wrong with you?

      Could some people get scared, worried, confused and hate them self’s because they were taught that if you recognize the beauty of someone who is of the same sex, then you are an outcast, a freak and then in this weakened state of confusion/misconception, feel that they are not like other people, that they are an outcast that may only be “normal” and accepted by “gay” people and the person now decides to seek normality with other “gay” people and to then try out gay sex? could they then later find out and realize that not only is it possible to acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of someone of the same sex, but it is also possible to find human contact (when done in naturally sexually stimulative sensitive privet places) pleasurable and now discovering and accepting this they therefore conclude that this means they are full on “gay?”

      -A buses vibrations in the morning may stimulate some peoples seances, does that mean you are a “Busersexual” for discovering that the new models of buses are really well built, pretty and can also increasingly sexually stimulate you if they come into contact with you in certain ways?

      likewise, in the event of being brought up to believe that being gay is perfectly ok may also lead to someone who merely appreciated the beauty of someone of the same sex, to then believe they are now “gay” and they decide to hang around in circles of people who have gay sex and maybe also decide to have gay sex, because they were taught that people who recognize the beauty of others are “gay” and have gay sex.

      If I appreciate the benefits of wealth does that make me materialistic? -What if I recognize the benefits of poverty? i.e. maybe increased humbleness, appreciation of what you have got, passion to help other in need, satisfaction/contentment/happiness and a way to protect your self from being arrogant.

      With each individual person different reasons may make them choose to be labeled “gay.”

      Surely to ask someone “what would you do if your 2 year old son was gay in 12 years time” may not really be an answerable question if you do not have other information that may be needed to give an accurate answer. i.e. I knew one person who told me she was a lesbian. Then one day we was driving past a takeaway and she saw a man in a takeaway and she said something along the lines of “he is gorgeous.” I said to the lady, something along the lines of “you must not be a (full on, woman only) lesbian if you find that man attractive, perhaps you only find really good looking guys attractive. The lady realized she was not a (full on) lesbian and later chose to be with a man.

      -We may not know why each individual person chooses to have have gay sex “-how long is a piece of string?”

      As for abortions, I remember when I first found out that the (now) mother of my child was pregnant. I basically told the mother that I do not agree with aborting children and that she has the right and freedom to make her own mind up. She was worried about what her parents would say. I basically tried to help her not feel pressured, I also suggested not telling her parents she was pregnant until she had decided what her opinion (of what to do) is. I think I did not want to force or pressure her in anyway. I probably also reassured her that I would not leave her to bring up a child on her own, that I would be a good farther and I also encouraged her to take her time and make up her mind without being under pressure. -Different people, different situations, different circumstances may mean different answers to a question “what would you advise your daughter if she said she wanted an abortion” -how long is a piece of string..?

      -The correct answer may differ if she said she wanted an abortion because she is scared of what her mum would think.. or if she wanted an abortion because she thought the babies farther would abandon her, or she is ashamed to walk down the road with a pram, or if she wanted an abortion because she was worried about money, or she thought bringing up a child ruins your life (when it could be a lot easy and rewarding than people may at first think, it may even add value to your life…)

      Maybe some 14 year old people genuinely need help with reasoning and require different levels/types of support.

      Surely we all should the have freedom to choose what we want to do and showing your pregnant 14 year child that you care for them, that they have free will to choose what to do, whilst also helping them by explaining your reasoning for why you (act upon your freedom to have opinions and) choose not to have abortions may help your 14 year old daughter be honest with you and share with you any have worries they may have about having a child. This level of positive communication between a parent and child may open ways for the child to be help with any misunderstandings or other reasoning difficulties that they may need help with.

      I am glad my daughters mother decided to not terminate are daughter and seeing the beautiful results of are mutually agreed decision, I can confidently say we made the right choice!

      Am I a bad parent for not agreeing with other peoples opinions of having gay sex and aborting children? Should my daughter be taken from me? Am I abnormal, a freak for having my own opinions?

    • Susan

      These forms of counselling are not “discredited”. You are simply attacking t he freedom of others to seek whatever help they want and choose. you should mind your own business. As for the claims that therapy is harmful, that is absurd since LGBT behaviour is harmful indeed lethal.

  11. Truth Teller.

    If I had a family member that decided to have gay sex at the age of 14 I might tell them that it is illegal to have sex at the age of 14 and if you decide to break the law then maybe try and look more into why it is that you want to have gay sex? I may also say to the family member that thought they were “gay” -that a girl may find a girl attractive because many girls are pretty, but thinking that a girl is pretty does not mean your are a freak, nor does it mean that you are gay.

    It may be that you appreciate beauty, that you are honest with yourself and others to tell them this, -but does appreciating other humans beauty mean you should be boxed into a category and labelled “gay?”

    Should you necessarily then follow the trends and expectations that may be associated and influence by being tagged with a “gay” label? Does recognizing that someone of the same sex is pretty mean you should then start having gay sex? Does being able to acknowledging beauty mean you have something wrong with you?

    Could some people get scared, worried, confused and hate them self’s because they were taught that if you recognize the beauty of someone who is of the same sex, then you are an outcast, a freak and then in this weakened state of confusion/misconception, feel that they are not like other people, that they are an outcast that may only be “normal” and accepted by “gay” people and the person now decides to seek normality with other “gay” people and to then try out gay sex? could they then later find out and realize that not only is it possible to acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of someone of the same sex, but it is also possible to find human contact (when done in naturally sexually stimulative sensitive privet places) pleasurable and now discovering and accepting this they therefore conclude that this means they are full on “gay?”

    -A buses vibrations in the morning may stimulate some peoples seances, does that mean you are a “Bus-osexual” for discovering that the new models of buses are really well built, pretty and can also increasingly sexually stimulate you if they come into contact with you in certain ways?

    likewise, in the event of being brought up to believe that being gay is perfectly ok may also lead to someone who merely appreciated the beauty of someone of the same sex, to then believe they are now “gay” and they decide to hang around in circles of people who have gay sex and maybe also decide to have gay sex, because they were taught that people who recognize the beauty of others are “gay” and have gay sex.

    If I appreciate the benefits of wealth does that make me materialistic? -What if I recognize the benefits of poverty? i.e. maybe increased humbleness, appreciation of what you have got, passion to help other in need, satisfaction/contentment/happiness and a way to protect your self from being arrogant.

    With each individual person different reasons may make them choose to be labeled “gay.”

    Surely to ask someone “what would you do if your 2 year old son was gay in 12 years time” may not really be an answerable question if you do not have other information that may be needed to give an accurate answer. i.e. I knew one person who told me she was a lesbian. Then one day we was driving past a takeaway and she saw a man in a takeaway and she said something along the lines of “he is gorgeous.” I said to the lady, something along the lines of “you must not be a (full on, woman only) lesbian if you find that man attractive, perhaps you only find really good looking guys attractive. The lady realized she was not a (full on) lesbian and later chose to be with a man.

    -We may not know why each individual person chooses to have have gay sex “-how long is a piece of string?”

    As for abortions, I remember when I first found out that the (now) mother of my child was pregnant. I basically told the mother that I do not agree with aborting children and that she has the right and freedom to make her own mind up. She was worried about what her parents would say. I basically tried to help her not feel pressured, I also suggested not telling her parents she was pregnant until she had decided what her opinion (of what to do) is. I think I did not want to force or pressure her in anyway. I probably also reassured her that I would not leave her to bring up a child on her own, that I would be a good farther and I also encouraged her to take her time and make up her mind without being under pressure. -Different people, different situations, different circumstances may mean different answers to a question “what would you advise your daughter if she said she wanted an abortion” -how long is a piece of string..?

    -The correct answer may differ if she said she wanted an abortion because she is scared of what her mum would think.. or if she wanted an abortion because she thought the babies farther would abandon her, or she is ashamed to walk down the road with a pram, or if she wanted an abortion because she was worried about money, or she thought bringing up a child ruins your life (when it could be a lot easy and rewarding than people may at first think, it may even add value to your life…)

    Maybe some 14 year old people genuinely need help with reasoning and require different levels/types of support.

    Surely we all should the have freedom to choose what we want to do and showing your pregnant 14 year child that you care for them, that they have free will to choose what to do, whilst also helping them by explaining your reasoning for why you (act upon your freedom to have opinions and) choose not to have abortions may help your 14 year old daughter be honest with you and share with you any have worries they may have about having a child. This level of positive communication between a parent and child may open ways for the child to be help with any misunderstandings or other reasoning difficulties that they may need help with.

    I am glad my daughters mother decided to not terminate our daughter and seeing the beautiful results of are mutually agreed decision, I can confidently say we made the right choice!

    Am I a bad parent for not agreeing with other peoples opinions of having gay sex and aborting children? Should my daughter be taken from me? Am I abnormal, a freak for having my own opinions?

    • Susan

      If you are as you say opposed to abortion you should not have made this girl pregnant outside wedlock. So yes, you were from the outset a “bad parent”.

  12. TI

    it is common knowledge that he likes to wind people up and obsessed with abortion ideation. Many people think he is gay as he goes on and on about those connected views. He is “gagged dad” …….

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  21. RaymondTheBrave

    Reblogged this on Christianity is a Way of Life and commented:
    This is what is happening in the UK today!

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