Does someone you love hate you?

Implacable hostility often isn’t mutual.

It is a myth promulgated by a cliché, that implacable hostility on the part of one of two separated parents towards the other, must necessarily, or even usually, be reciprocated.  Most parents who separate manage to consider their children’s interests, alongside their own emotions.  Unlucky indeed is the child with two alienating parents, caught in a “tug of love”.

Ricky Dearman speaks fondly of Ella Draper!

In the court’s judgment in Re P and Q (Children: Care Proceedings: Fact Finding), the Hampstead Witch Hunt case,  at paragraph 63, Mrs Justice Pauffley wrote:

1. Mr Dearman was taken in evidence to the entire series of sexual and other allegations made against him. He denied there was truth in anything suggested. He does accept that the breakdown of his relationship with the mother both at the time and subsequently was acrimonious. But, said Mr Dearman, “There are two sides to the story. I’m not perfect. I’m a decent guy and a good father.” Of the mother, he said this – “When Ella is not doing crazy stuff she is a really beautiful person.”

The context of this heart-warming quote

This is a case in which a mother “tortured” her own children (Mrs Justice Pauffley found), into making false allegations against their father.

In this extreme example, which centres upon Hampstead, of the classic modus operandi, there has been an exceptional happy ending. The ruthless alienating parent who tortured her own children to get her own way, for once didn’t manage to pull the wool over the eyes of the social worker, the police and the courts.  Hallelujah!

Consequently, Ella Draper didn’t get what she bargained for, the usual unequivocal support of the entire relevant public sector (social workers, police, schools, family courts, the entire NHS) more-or-less whenever an alienating parent fabricates child abuse and coaches his or her child or children to lie about the alienating parent.  The police now “wish to interview” Ms Draper in connection with …  Interpol may catch Ella Draper one day, leading to her arrest and extradition from (the word is on the streets) Russia.  I hope that happens soon.  I wouldn’t wish even these once “tortured” children to lose contact with their now fugitive-from-justice mum, permanently.

I am thoroughly committed to the principle on which I recently spent my savings, about which only 51 other people in North Cornwall also apparently cared, enough to have voted for me, rather than a Lib Lab Con Trick party candidate.  Let every child have both parents.  Like Ricky Dearman, I still love my ex, even though she now hates me, lies about me, and (in the opinion of Karen Woodall here) tortures my son, to make him lie about me on cue, and to believe her lies about me.

Ricky Dearman, I salute you.  Learning that Ella, your ex, had tortured your son and your daughter into making the false allegations against you she did, your dismay could easily have turned to wrath.  But instead, you told the court that “When Ella is not doing crazy stuff she is a really beautiful person.”