Let every child have both parents

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North Cornwall Constituency Parliamentary Election, 7th May 2015

Men make lousy mums …

… but, then again, women make lousy dads.


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The 1959 Declaration on the Rights of the Child, Principle 6, declared:

“The child, for the full and harmonious development of his personality, needs love and understanding.  He shall, wherever possible, grow up in the care and under the responsibility of his parents, and, in any case, in an atmosphere of affection and of moral and material security; a child of tender years shall not, save in exceptional circumstances, be separated from his mother.”

Both parents.   Every child.   Wherever possible.

The United Kingdom is not only failing to secure the Principle 6 right of every child to both parents “wherever possible”.  It is actively undermining that right.  Selfish parents, and (often) ideologically-influenced social workers and family court judges who empower them, have denied many a child the right to any direct contact at all, with mum, or with dad.

Sometimes children are even denied contact with either of that child’s two natural parents  For example, this happens when children are adopted, without the consent of their natural parents.

Children are being cared for, by the million, by only one, or by neither, of their parents, despite howls of protest from the parents excluded, and (often) vociferous protests on the part of the children themselves who are adversely affected by this policy of every British government since (at least) Margaret Thatcher’s.

Children beyond number, are routinely being denied the care of one or both of their parents, even when it would be perfectly “possible” (in the words of Principle 6) for those children to grow up in the care and under the responsibility of at least one, and (where possible, preferably) both their parents, as is their right, wherever “possible”.

In the process, many a child is losing contact not just with mum or dad, or with mum and dad, but with grandparents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, nephews, nieces, and cousins galore.

The main reason you hear so little about this gross abuse of simply millions of British children on the news, is that these decisions are being taken behind closed doors, often in secret courts, that are more-or-less controlled by a manipulative and wilful social work industry that has scant regard for Principle 6.  Parents, at the rate of a couple of hundred a year, are being jailed, for complaining about such injustices in our secret family courts.

Some decisions to exclude parents from their children’s lives are not taken in secret family courts, but in secret meetings called by social services that the excluded parents are not even aware are being held.

In one recent case, a father was told that it had been decided in his absence that he would never see his son again, because the social worker disagreed with the father’s moral beliefs.  The father was opposed to abortion because he believed in the equality of foetus children with other humans, as I do myself.  Himself a survivor of homosexual abuse during his adolescence, the father had also written in 2013, hoping to discourage members of the House of Lords from voting for the Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Bill.  The family court did not make an order that the father should never see his son again.  Regardless, and admitting that opposition to the father’s moral beliefs was their motivation, Cornwall Council has bullied, misled, lied and manipulated, in order to procure that this father and his son are both punished, for the father’s politically incorrect moral beliefs.

Suicide is the leading cause of death amongst men under 50 in the UK.  The suicide of men alone claims 100 lives a week.  Many of these are lives that seem no longer worth living, as far as the excluded parents condemned to live those lives, or to take their own lives, are concerned.  Women are affected too.  I know personally one mother who has had all four of her children taken from her!

But I digress.  My plea to you, Cornish voter, is primarily about the right of the children of Britain’s excluded parents, not the Article 8 Convention right to a family life of the excluded parents themselves.  Often the excluded parents’ hearts are broken mostly because they realise that their own exclusion from their children’s lives is breaking the hearts of the children whom the British state wants never to see one of their parents again, to their lifelong detriment (as the best science predicts).  Please put these children first, when you decide where to place your cross, on polling day.

Cast an ethical vote this election!

Related posts

Two year-old’s contact stopped with “homophobic” dad (guest post by Gagged Dad)

The Hampstead Witch Hunt – parental alienation taken to extremes


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And finally, the Election Communication that the Royal Mail has been asked to deliver to every home in the constituency:




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7 responses to “Let every child have both parents

  1. Andrew D

    This very sad news today :
    Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust, his wife, Discretion, his daughter, Responsibility and his son, Reason. He is survived by three stepbrothers; I Know My Rights, Someone Else is to Blame, and I’m A Victim. Not many attended his funeral because so few realised that he was gone.

    If you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do

    John Allman MP ..makes common sense to me.

  2. Well done John..

    Hope all goes well. It will get the message out directly to voters and more importantly you can get into legitimate hustings and articles on all media outlets. You have legitimised our position And at each meeting you can pressurise the other candidates too. Amanda Pennington the Green has to stand side by side with you on this. It is fundamental to our core values as Greens and social parity is unequivocal I hope you can realise a compassionate response to care and balance in all other answers to questions on the Hustings. Tell Amanda that although politically a Green l am also Research Convenor for the Social Parity Working Group for the GP England and Wales and Liaison for West and Mid – East Cornwall Green Party. She should know this.

    Is the great Andrew B standing in any of the three Plymouth Constituencies?

    Good fortune

    Nigel 07415 628628

    • Thank you Nigel.

      Amanda, John Whitby (Lab) and his wife, and I, all travelled in Amanda’s car together from the Stoke Climsland hustings to back to Launceston last night. That was three of the seven candidates in one car.

      The four out of the five candidates with little hope of being elected who have met at the hustings, have developed a certain level of friendship amongst one another. Your Angela, John (Lab), Julie (UKIP) and me. Both the likely winners, Dan (Lib Dem) and Scott (Con), have promised me that they will heed my message, if and when they win.

      So far, I’ve attended hustings in Bodmin (run by BBC Radio Cornwall), near Launceston, in Wadebridge and in Stoke Climsland. I’ve got one more hustings booked, in Launceston itself. There was one in Bude in January, for the then prospective candidates.

      The Mebyon Kernow candidate has missed every hustings!

      Andrew is standing for Budshead ward in the Plymouth City Council elections on the same day as the general election, as “Both Parents Matter” candidate, with FNF’s blessing. Andrew’s contact details are on the poster at the end of this post, which advertised one of the help meetings of FNF Plymouth, the one held in Launceston last summer. I am keeping my distance from FNF during this campaign, because I don’t want to give the wrong impression that the problem I am campaigning about is gendered. Excluded mothers use FNF’s services on an equal basis to excluded fathers, but that is not obvious, from the name “Families Need Fathers”. Secondly, I have opinions about other issues with which FNF might not wish to be associated.

      The following blog post might appeal to you:


      Having seen some pretty shoddy “justice” on the part of a male district judge, and being impressed with the judgment of Mrs Justice Pauffley in Re P and Q (the Hampstead Witch Hunt fact-finding hearing of the High Court Family Division that I have blogged about recently and linked to above), I am sceptical of the need to use gendered language to describe the decline in the quality of family court justice since Mrs Thatcher’s government’s Children Act. I think it is potentially unnecessarily offensive to women. Intelligent women like my three daughters are not as women are stereotyped in the above post. My youngest daughter found “Masculism, Feminism and the Euro Tunnel” very amusing, by the way.

      Female judges are not part of the problem. Misandric social workers certainly are. But it is the principle of rewarding controlling behaviour by handing control to the controller and excluding the peaceable parent that is at fault. I am not so much concerned that children lose dad more often than they lose mum, as that anybody whose wages our taxes pays thinks that a child should lose either parent, because that is what one of the parents desires, and is willing to fight dirty to achieve. I wouldn’t be happy to see an equal amount of paternal and maternal deprivation going on. I don’t want any child deprived of one parent in the first place, unless it is impossible to avoid this.

      Karen Woodall is by far the best scholar I’ve come across on the problem of parental alienation.

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